Made for each other

 
Beautiful as a princess
Draped in shades of red
Decorated with gem’n jewels
In silk and zari thread

Embellished with grace’n aroma
Of Roses and autumn’s bloom
Radiating a sparkling glow
She stands beside the groom

As charming and cute is she
His charisma is spellbound too
Adorned with chivalry and reason
His types are rare and few.

They vow and promise with love
To befriend each other for life
And angels step down to the aisle
To pronounce them man and wife

May their love be forever
In sunshine and in shade.
Complete they seem together
For each other were they made

                                   – Khushi

Dedicated to my dear friends S and D. God bless you both

 

Arranged Marriage - the fear of the unknown !!

 

The woods were lovely dark and deep. Walking slowly beside her, in the damp mud road, was her husband whom she barely knew. He was very relaxed, happily watching a group of kids playing at a distance. Her “mehandi” was still dark and smelling fresh, reminding of the excitements and tension 2 days back.

“It cant work this way mom…please stop this”, she kept telling her mother till the last moment, who wouldn’t listen but carry on with beautifying her. She had been crying all night and her make-up had to be patched up twice or thrice to hide her awkwardly swollen face.It was too late now.She had to get married “NOW” to the guy…The guy whom she had seen once and talked thrice.The guy about whom she knew nothing at all but for his name and work.Everything happened in a hurry and everything was over before she could breathe again… here was she with this guy, all alone in this hill station… how can anybody send their daughter such a long distance with a stranger???

 

Ingredients for a wedding

Ingredients for a wedding

Ingredients
4-lb of love
1-lb of youth
0.5-lb of good looks
1-lb of sweet temper
1-lb of blindness to faults
1-lb of self-forgetfulness
1-lb of powdered wit
1-lb of good humor
2 -tbsp of sweet argument
1- pint of rippling laughter
1- wine glass of common sense
1- oz of modesty
Put the love, good looks and sweet temper into a well-furnished house. Beat the butter of youth to a cream and mix well to blindness of faults.
Stir the pounded wit and good humor in to the sweet argument; then add the rippling laughter and common sense. Work the whole together until everything is mixed and bake gently forever.(Found in a church book of recipes about 1900AD)

 

Six C’s of marriage

 

A successful marriage requires a mix of Compatibility, Chemistry, Commitment, Community, Communication and Compassion.

Compatibility - A set of interests and values that establishes a common ground between two people

Chemistry - Indefinable attributes that make two people ‘click’ with each other

Commitment - An explicit and implicit understanding that both partners are dedicated to making the relationship work

Community - A network of family and friends to support and nurture the relationship

Communication - An effort to express feelings and share experiences with each other

Compassion - A human quality that becomes all the more important for developing a successful relationship

Various findings indicate that different people give different weightage to the above factors in their description of an ideal life partner and consequently they are looking for different things in an ideal match making solution. Which one is the most important ?? I guess the answer varies from person to person. I would give Commitment and the ability to Communicate the top priority. What about you ?

 

kuch kaantein uske daaman ke

 

kitni yaadein basaa rakhi hain
inn naino ke darpan mein……
kuch shararatein bachpan ki hain
Kahin jhooole hain saawan ke……

Bin mausam barsaat se hoti
Hulchul kyun hai tan man mein……
Sapan salonei akhiaan hain pirohti
Man mandir mein saajan ke ……

Sajji hui moti pushpon se
Baithegi jab doli mein ……
haath rachaa kar piya ki mehndi
Sang hogi man bhaawan ke ……

bhor hui aur bikhar gaya kyun
sapna yeh uske haathon mein
koi nahi kya…aakar jo chun lei
kuch kaantein uske daaman ke

   – Khushi

 

Marriage – what’s it about ??

Its neither about who’ll earn the bread
Nor about who’ll bake it
Its neither about who’ll wash the dish
Nor about who’ll flake it
Its neither about who’ll dig the lawn
Nor about who’ll rake it

Its neither about which home you’ll dwell
Nor about who’ll elect it
Its neither about which stock you’ll invest
Nor about who’ll select it
Its neither about which car you’ll drive
Nor about who’ll inspect it

Its all about the chemistry you have
And how soon, you’ll attain it
Its all about the concern you share
And how well, you’ll sustain it
Its all about the empathy you enjoy
And how long, you’ll retain it.

Its all about the wrong you admit
And how gladly, you’ll correct it
Its all about the losing trust you see
And how willfully, you’ll resurrect it
Its all about the other’s imperfection
And how knowingly, you’ll respect it

Its about forgetting the “I”……..And still having your identity
Its about uniting as “We”……..And attaining the sanctity

– Khushi

 

Shaadi alias Marriage

BEWARE !!!

• Marriage is not a word. It’s a sentence (a life sentence).
• Marriage is love. Love is blind. Therefore marriage is an institution for the blind.
• Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor’s Degree and the     woman gets her masters.
• Marriage is a three-ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring and suffering.
• Married life is full of excitement and frustration: In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and      the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the NEIGHBOUR listens.
• Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, and when you see what the other person has, you wish you had ordered that instead.

 

Ten Commandments

Of Marriage (ofCourse…. )

Commandment 1: Marriages are made in heaven. But so are thunder and lightning.

Commandment 2: If you want your wife to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say; talk in your sleep.

Commandment 3: Marriage is grand — and divorce is at least 100 grand!

Commandment 4: Married life is very frustrating. In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman  speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

Commandment 5: When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: Either the car is new or the wife is.

Commandment 6: Marriage is when a man and woman become as one. The trouble starts  when they try to decide which one.

Commandment 7: Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you say. After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish.

Commandment 8: Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook. But the law allows only one wife.

Commandment 9: Marriage and love are purely matter of chemistry. That is why wives treat husbands like toxic waste.

Commandment 10: A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished

 

Separate Identities

While it may sound good to be addressed as a couple, the key to a successful relationship and happiness is to maintain personal autonomy. Here are some tips on how to go about itOften people confuse identity and individuality with flexibility in the relationship.

Individuality is about the things that make you who you are, while flexibility is about compromise. The way compromising is necessary in all relationships, so is maintaining individuality.Many relationships fail today because one partner has given up too much of themselves for the other.

 

Bachelor 7.0 vs Marriage 1.0

Dear (IT) Technical support

I am desperate for some help. I recently upgraded from Bachelor 7.0 to wife 1.0 and found that the new program took up a lot of space and valuable resources.This was not mentioned in the product brochure. In addition, Wife 1.0 installs itself into all other programs and launches during system initialization where it monitors all other system activity.

Applications such as Late Night Parties 2.5, and Sunday cricket 5.3 no longer run and crash the system whenever selected. Attempting to operate Saturday OGA Club 6.3 always fails, but Saturday shopping 7.1 runs instead.

I cannot seem to keep Wife 1.0 in the back ground whilst attempting to run any of my favorite applications. I am thinking about going back to Bachelor 7.0, but uninstall doesn’t work on this program.

Can you please help?

From

Poor Guy!!!

Reply from Technical support.

Dear Poor IT Guy!,

 

Asan hun tur jana hai

Likhne wale ne likh dale Milan ke sath vichorey
Asan hun tur jana hai,Din reh gaye ney thodhe

Mushkil hai is shahar se jana
Phir jane kab hoga ana
Yaad na ana,Bhool na jana
Yeh DiL kaisa hai deewana
Chaar dino main isne kitne Rishte NateY Torey

Asan hun tur jana hai,Din reh gaye ney thodhe

Milna bicharna,reet yehe hai
haar yehe hai
jeet yehe hai
Pyar yehe hai
preet yehe hai

Asan hun tur jana hai,Din reh gaye ney thodhe

Duniya ke dastor hain aise
Sare bandhan sapno jaise
DiL ghum seh leta hai waise
koi ansoo rokey kaise
jab beti doli main bhete
Babul ka ghar chorey

Asan hun tur jana hai,Din reh gaye ney thodhe

 

Sada chidiyan da chamba ve

Following is one of the old Punjabi folk song……..also in the popular film - “Kabhie Kabhie”. For many decades songs like these have wet the eyes of dads(babul) and daughters alike.  

                        ************* 

“Sada chidiyan da chamba ve, babul asan ud jana
Sadi lambi udari ve, babul kede des jana

Tere mehlan de vich vich ve, babul gudiyan kaun khede?
Meriyan khedan potariyan, dhiye ghar ja apne

Tere mehalan de vich vich ve, babul charkha kaun katey?
Meriyan katan potariyan, dhiye ghar ja apne

Mera chuta kasida ve, babul das kaun kade?
Meriyan kadan potariyan, dhiye ghar ja apne

Tereyan bagan de vich vich ve, babul dola nahi langda
ik tehni patt devan, dhiye ghar ja apne

Teriyan pe diyan galiyan ch ve, babul dola nahi langda
ik itt patt devan dhiye ghar ja apne “
                        ************* 

 

Maitri dot Com

Maitri dot Com

Folks and friends
compel into disarray
“over 21 and Still single ?”
they force them to foray

To a territory so vast
dot com as the aides
Harmony, e-match or jeevansaathi
wherever the crowd cascades

A partner to find
Not a career to orient
They set out to foster
hopeful for life’s ascent

Just a free account online
They put on their hats
Start browsing profiles
And filter out the brats

Zillions of options
Hundreds to confuse
Finally manage a list
To meet and choose

Some cool and trendy
But poor at household
Others great at delicacies
But not confident and bold

Click icon to contact
And pops up a note
“Be a premier member
And then send a quote”

Shell out a hundred bucks
Become special in the crowd
Start emails and chats
Some wink some pout

From far across miles
Couples meet and date
Who When finds “THE” one
Is destiny and fate

How good is the media
If authenticity is in doubts
It does widen the horizon
And offers diverse routes

Its not on this earth
matches are made up there
There’s hope in HIM
Each HE made as a pair

Be on the look-out
Cheer and don’t frown
En-route is your love
To sparkle your Crown

– Khushi