The real culprit - Attitude

How are you ? “Good”

Whats up?  “Nothing much !!”

 

These answers are so obvious at times, that they often go unheard. And the fact remains that there is never a day which goes as usual. The regular motion of this land which we stand upon always causes some upheavals. We choose to ignore some while some make an impact….a deeper one at times. The food for thought is that during the course of our lives, the perspective that we adopt while analyzing any of these are so varied. And that is what makes all the difference. One event could have a significant stressful impact at one time and it may be completely overlooked at the other. Quite apparently, the circumstances take the blame for all our botherations and the real culprit goes unnoticed – our attitude !!

 

If you seek the colors of black and white, then all you’ll see are the shades of gray. To see a rainbow, you have to be willing to step out in the rain and embrace the sun rays peeping out of the clouds. Life is not two sides of a coin; it’s a wind-chime that fills in the melody by ringing a different chord with each passing wind.

 

 

 

Which one ??

 

Love Insurance

 

With the hype created by Michael Moore in the flourishing insurance markets, another type of insurance would probably interest most of the young generation. “Love Insurance”

If my readers are not already intrigued by the concept, just imagine, with a little premium investment, one would be assured of 

• No heart breaks. 
• No sleepless nights
• No blank gazing  
• Financial assistance
• Enhanced productivity
• Sense of security 
• Third party evaluations and credentials 
• Another insurance industry - More jobs -improved Employment rate - Better economy

So what could be the concept like.  Read on……

 

Describe KHUSHI

   

While browsing off the internet, I came across this site called the Johari Window.  The word “Johari” in the Indian language Hindi means - Jeweler. In the literal sense, someone who could tell the worth of a stone (diamond or glass) at the blink of an eye.

Here at www.kevan.org the Johari Window is:

The Johari Window was invented by Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham in the 1950s as a model for mapping personality awareness. By describing yourself from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of overlap and difference can be built up.

Seems a nice one :)  My blog, my whimsical discourse, acts as an expression and  a vent for what I see, think and feel. The essence of my writings, in a way, is a reflection of me.

Come on friends, come tell me what you think about the author of this blog……thats  me - Khushi 

Describe me at : http://kevan.org/johari?name=khushiA

 Cheers

Khushi !!

 

Last month

My past month at a glance:  

• Celebrated another anniversary of my 16^th birthday. J
• Got back in touch with old friends and lost touch with a few.
• Additions to my literary collection.
• Active blogging.
• Added the Video – VodPod feature to my blog
• Got addicted to a few new music genres
• Hoped and trusted and had lessons learnt.
• Made new resolutions (Punjab’s new year ;-))

For the first time, 

• Was showered with birthday gifts for one whole week. – Thanks to Archie J
• Hosted a cultural night for 300 unknown audience. (a debut success)
• Witnessed a professional ballet live in an Opera House. J
• Painted Easter eggs J
• Attended Easter prayers in a contemporary Church. J
• Had loads of snow in spring. L

 

Friday the 13th

Friday the 13th is considered to be a day of bad luck in many traditions. Ironically, the 13th day of the month comes at least once and atmost three times every year on a friday. So according to the traditions or should I say superstitions, we are bound to have atleast one BAD-LUCK day every year ???

It was friday the 13th when I landed in US for the first time. Not that it was an achievement for me, but it definitely marked a new beginning in my life. I stepped in an unknown country, in pursuit of higher education. Since then I have grown both personally and professionally. So a good start on a so called unlucky day.

The old beliefs even state that a child born on a Friday the 13th is doomed for misfortune - the well known twins Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen were born on 13th, a friday and I would say that they have had their share of limelight more than the misfortune which any average person would have in his life.  

According to the Gregorian calendar, the 13th day of the month is slightly more likely to be on a Friday than on any other day of the week. Now the pessimists would already be half way in depression and the optimists would be happy for the fact that whatever date it may be…………………..TGIF       < Thank God its Friday >

{Ref: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friday_13}

 

Follow your heart; not the second thoughts.

 

A typical Arian that I am, I tend to go by my first instincts. I can’t really vow that they are always right, but following my heart has always given me a sense of satisfaction. It provides me with the courage to stand forth and face the harsh winds that slam into my face and also embrace the warm breeze that soothes the pain thereafter. It gives me the convenience of living life one day at a time and to live it without any inhibitions and fears. It helps me to live life fully – The First Time.

Usually my first instinct for a situation is based on trust, faith and experience of life so far. Not to claim that I have lot many experiences, but as they say, life is a mystery for an 8 year old and an 80 year old alike. Who on the surface on earth is not perplexed? Who can predict the future with certainty? Who does not cross his fingers when things don’t seem to be feasible and seem only a very distant possibility? In those times it is only our faith and hope that keeps us going. What we see and perceive in our first instincts is often the innocent acumen of our heart. When things are going in our favor we undoubtedly choose to follow them but at times when we are faced with circumstantial discords, we humans give our instincts a SECOND thought.

 

Try and succeed :)

 

I don’t really remember when I first heard the above quote; but this has been like some guiding light for me ever since. I think it dates back to my school years, especially those examination quarters. At times I take some time to ponder over words and these phrases which other wise would seem to be just a sentence but have a deeper meaning. This in particular has always motivated me….pushed me forward. During the hours when I was discouraged and wanted to give it all up, this reminded me that I can’t give up without giving it my best shot. That’s what life is all about………

Give your best and don’t worry about the rest.

I have always been the go-getter girl, mainly because of my mom who always encouraged me with her saying “If someone can do it….so can you”. I can actually credit all my achievements to them both – mom and dad: Mom for her constant pushes and Dad for his never ending trust and faith in me. Time and again they reminded me the importance of being worthy of my actions……having confidence in my abilities and remembering always that even when not all shall be in my hands ……. even if the whole universe conspires against me, I should always trust and believe that it is ME who can make a difference and I shall leave no leaf unturned to ensure it.

Those who believe sky is the limit; have a very limited imagination.

 

Hope is Belief in ourselves

What is hope?

Hope (according to the dictionary) is the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best. And hope against hope is, to continue to hope, although the outlook does not warrant it. Hope is a belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one’s life. Hope implies a certain amount of perseverance — i.e. believing that a positive outcome is possible even when there is some evidence to the contrary. Hopefulness is somewhat different than optimism, in that hope is an emotional state, where optimism is a conclusion reached through a deliberate thought pattern which leads to a positive attitude.

Hope is passive in the sense of a wish or a prayer - or active as a plan or idea, often against popular belief, with persistent, personal action to execute the plan or prove the idea. Consider a prisoner of war who never gives up hope for escape and, against the odds, plans and accomplishes this. By contrast another who simply wishes or prays for freedom, or another who give up all hope of freedom.

What is hope in realistic terms for humans?

For an old man in his 80s, hope is not that life is eternal, but instead hope is health and happiness. For a blind person, hope is not the colors of the rainbow, but instead the tears of joy which fill his eyes when he feels the smiles of his loved ones.For a 6 year old suffering from leukemia, hope is the fairy’s magical wand that’ll steal away the pain. 

What is hope without faith in your self….without the courage and perseverance…… without the urge to achieve the impossible………without your will to see through the circumstances and believe in your instincts……in your strengths? With every Hope in our heart, we need a SWOT (Strengths Weaknesses Opportunities Threats) analysis……   

Mind is what baffles us……Heart directs us to things which are more humane……but we choose to run after the materialistic things………in the hope of a better future……we make compromises with our present……when future in itself is a mystery……and which future are we talking about……when we are unsure about what happens the next moment………but we are humans……we are influenced by not what is within us……but with that which is around us……and that is our biggest issue.  

Oliver wendell Holmes once said: What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. 

We shy away from the known in pursuit of an unknown.

But what we fail to remember is that: Life is not a bed of roses and every rose comes with thorns – sooner or later. We can’t change the inevitable……What we can do is to trust ourselves and our abilities and march forth.  

“If you look at what you do not have in life, you don’t have anything, If you look at what you have in life, you have everything”.

 

Food for thought

 

” We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere.” 

“In every friend we lose a part of ourselves, and the best part” - Alexander Pope

 

Another Evolution

Humans, as we know them, change almost every other minute, adapting to the changes in their aura. In the course of our lifetime we undergo so many natural metamorphosis processes, that it is harder for even us to keep track of them, leave aside the people around us who in some way or another get affected by them. The question that we need to sit and ponder is: To what extent is this change really desired or required? 

If I sit and observe my own life, I have constantly been adapting to my changing environments. After living for over 15 years in one house, when we shifted to the university residence allotted to my dad, for the first few days, I just could not feel at home there. Every wall, fixture, door, space and even my own new room seemed so alien. While coming back from school, subconsciously, I used to still route towards my old home. In due course, I learnt to adapt and just got accustomed to the new surroundings. With new and better houses being allocated to my dad in the coming years, we moved to three different homes until we relocated to our now home. It is just so surprising that it was no longer hard to adjust after each successive move. As if in the process of this new evolution, the “adjust to change Chip” got installed on my processor board.    

 

The Unfathomable moments

It’s been sometime that I sat and wrote something which wasn’t anywhere related to a verse. Something direct from heart and still in its raw form not published in some sort of polished lexis. I often just sit and stare at the computer screen when I am working on some logic and trying to concentrate hard.  Those times, I sometimes just wander off somewhere, not physically but mentally.  Or when I am sitting at home just got some job accomplished and am now relaxing with a gravity zero workspace and still my mind and thoughts are not at rest. At times, during these “unfathomable” moments, if I happen to have a paper and pencil in hand, I tend to design, scribble or sketch something……something which might not make any sense at all. Like a stature with a bird head and a dolphin bottom or a flower with an ambi (raw mango) shape as the stem, or a face sitting with sealed lips with an incessant stream of questions in her eyes, or a continuous cursive inscription from a-z…where if I continue with the flow then I cant point the I’s and the j’s and cant cross all t’s….And if I stop to cross the t’s and point the I’s, I might actually be breaking the flow.  

I hope I didn’t lose my readers here. I guess the point I am trying to make here is about those moments which are so mystifying and I am not actually thinking about anything in particular…..but still sub-consciously my mind is wandering near and far. Pondering upon some things going on in my life, imagining something for the future and then reverting it all back and forth, remembering some past moments and then wishing they came back and world just stopped at a decimal there, accepting a change and then debating about which is better, one that I lived through or the one which is still unknown and I might be venturing into.  What’s right and what’s not? What does the future hold for you? The surprise element is good but, at times, don’t u want to see through that mist ? Is life all about this confusion and bedazzlement? Or do we actually ever have a clear vision. Are there any corrective glasses for getting that perfect view? Those moments of perfect equilibrium……do they actually exist or is it another of our illusions?